Drop the Social Media mask

This question is sparked by a post from the amazing Margie Clayman in which she recounts her dismay over the disgraceful manner in which some folks handled the death of Trey Pennington & how this has greatly dampened her enjoyment of social media & the online world.

As I noted in response to Margie’s post, the virtual world is like a village watering hole where all types gather, all have a thirst to be heard. This thirst leads to a constant stream of positivity emitted from people who fear that they will lose influence should they disclose anything about themselves that’s less than upbeat. Obviously,nobody wants to read a constant stream of woe is me but if you are facing crisis points in your life & don’t feel that you have even one person you can reach out privately to, what the hell good is social media?

Dropping the Mask

Let me drop my mask by admitting that I am  better in text than in real time .When thrust into the spotlight I become an anxious, stuttering idiot or even worse will often say exactly what I’m thinking at the moment. At times these things have caused me to doubt my worth. What about you? Has the frequently artificial cheerfulness of social media left you feeling like you need to wear a mask that often leaves you feeling more isolated & alone than ever before??

Making Real Connections

Fortunately,I’ve grown wise enough to know that I’m not unique,many are shy in real time,  heck, TheBloggess is famous for hiding in the restroom at Blogher. I’m comfy with my geeky social limitations & have been fortunate enough ave  many hands extended to me, social media coaches  Dabney Porte  &  Britt Michaelian my tech mom friend  Robyn Wright & my dear friend & mentor Monica TheOnlineMom  are just a few of the amazing people in my inner circle, people who have proven over time that they are trust worthy, women I known I can confide in during the darkness of a real life crisis.

let’s deepen our connection

Obviously,some info doesn’t belong in open stream & we must use personal disclosure wisely but IMHO if we use social media only to sell things or promote we are cheating ourselves of the opportunity to form real,lasting connections online

Does heading onto Facebook or Twitter ever leave you feeling isolated or less worthy socially than others? Do you fear that disclosing your less than positive traits will result in negative backlash? If crisis happens who can you count on in your online world?  Let’s give some real meaning to the phrase “let’s deepen our connection” by sharing more about ourselves, tell me, who are you ? Let’s drop the social media mask and get to know each other better!

About Jean Parks

Jean Parks is a chocolate & cupcake loving, computer & gadget addict from Boston, MA


  1. I’ve found that having more than one Twitter profile to comfortably Tweet out of without using my employment/career name has been liberating. I do realize many figure out who’s behind the Avatar & TwitterHandles. My Social goal is to digitally distance from my professional name because I may RT things others may want to be aware of without even agreeing myself with what’s being conveyed. This is not immediately understood by digital entities, etc..

  2. I’m honored that you included me in your list indeed (and the feeling is mutual). I agree, people need to be more than just a smile behind a keyboard. It’s what that authenticity is all about. Granted, some are more comfortable that others in sharing of themselves regardless if it is online or offline, but don’t automatically discount sharing online. I am a fairly open person and have shared a lot online include the trials and tribulations of having a son who is bipolar and lots of events that happen with that. Sadly, I have lost two grandmothers since I have been doing social media and have found that my online community (Twitter, blog, facebook, G+, etc) have all been very supportive and helpful to me in getting through those tough times. Along with the harder things I share mundane, yes I had a bowl of soup for lunch today, I prefer Coke to Pepsi, I’m listening to Lady GaGa right now, etc. Plus lots of fun jokes, retweets, Likes, shares, +1’s, and more. Get out there folks and be you!

  3. My social media friends have given more of themselves to me than people who live right around the corner. The internet removes geographic barriers and allows friendships to form where mutual interests and emotions lie, not where you happen to reside.
    But as far as wearing a mask online. No… that just requires far too much effort. I’m the same here as I am everywhere. Love it or hate it. That’s just me.
    Although, I will say that having to type things out before I blurt them out does help me avoid some of the awkwardness I tend to have in social gatherings. Half the time I don’t even know what’s going to come out of my mouth.

  4. I have social anxiety IRL that makes me HATE to be the center of attention. For example, at PTA meetings I scribble tons of ideas down on paper during the meeting that I will end up emailing people about after because I I am so uncomfortable with a bunch of people looking at me.

    That anxiety doesn’t carry over to my online life, and though I still try to use manners and be tactful, it’s much easier for me to reach out online than in a real life social situation. I’d say I’m actually more myself online than I am in person.

  5. Ava Roxanne says:

    Great article! Some things that we all need to think about and try to do better.